A toast to love whose requitment is somewhat questionable and to love whose requitment is very much known one way or the other

After watching chick flicks with a lovely friend of mine, I've realized that love is one of those things you can never know about. One can spend all their time daydreaming and fantasizing about a person they can't possibly have because of some little slightly suspicious thing they said. A person can't possibly know who to like, if it could possibly be love, weather it could ever happen...anything really. You could spend all your time mooning over one person while the person of your dreams is there next to you comforting you when it doesn't work, asking "why do you go for these people when you know good people are all around you?". The right person for you could be on the sidelines just waiting for you to stop obsessing over that other person. The right person could not know your right for them when you've been dreaming about them all the while.

Swept off her feet by LAurelEllis

Some things are obvious. If you never talk to the person then it wont work. If someone really likes you they are gonna show it in some way. People will ALL WAYS read to far into things. If you spend all your time around them then most likely something will happen at some point, weather it will amount to anything later is another matter.

Then we have when a person is a huge part of your life and suddenly disappear, what the heck do you do then? Keep dreaming? most of the time that's just painfully unproductive. But then there are people who find this the most comfortable way to approach feelings. Not having hope of something happening could help them just enjoy the warm feeling of loving the absent person. Being able to like (love?) without having to worry about messing it up or the person not being who they thought they were is very comforting sometimes.



Of course then we have the issue of how seemingly imposable things happen all the time. People end up dating the person they have liked for a very longtime, who were uninterested and several years older, maybe in an entirely different social group. A couple could actually fall in love from across the country, maybe across the sea. Like they say "absence makes the heart grow fonder". If one person being in one place and the other was in another was a real reason for affection to not count then how the heck does being married/ dating an Army person work? It wouldn't! They are proof that seemingly  impossible things can happen. But if these impossible things happen then there really is no hope that we as poor little students of love could know anything. It seems to me that the best thing to do is just roll with it. You like someone? Well let yourself like them. If you slip up and say something to them when you don't want to just go with it. Who knows, maybe they are the one, maybe they aren't. You just have to try... and this turned out much longer then expected. i apologize for the length of this considering i didn't end up saying much.